Do you ever have those moments where your perception of reality is greatly scued? I usually have these moments when an anniversary occurs, or a birthday. I am forced to recognize the year, and in that moment I realize how much time has passed. Then that realization proceeds with a, “What have I been doing with my life?!”
35 is his new number…yes, simply a number. Not a definition, not a new health benefit bracket…a number. A number that he is wearing extremely well…even better than when his number was 21. Don’t get me wrong, he wore 21 like nobody’s business…after all, that was his number when I looked at his face and knew I was going to marry this man…but as the years have passed, I have appreciated him more and more. It’s cliché to say, yet there is a great deal of truth to that statement. Growing up alongside your spouse is not easy. I wouldn’t have it any other way, but it still hasn’t been easy.
When I think about the fact that I have been with this man for 14 years, married almost 11 of those years, my heart feels full and content. I’ve watched him mature…I’ve watched him struggle…I’ve been with him through his failures, and I’ve rejoiced with him in his accomplishments. We have shared many different moments together, but there are a few things about him that have remained the same, and that is his hilarious sarcasm, his brutal honesty, his haircut…yes, I said haircut!…his generosity, his servant’s heart, his integrity, and most of all, his love for God. He doesn’t let his career define him…it simply adds to him. He’s a leader in every aspect of his life, and I admire his driven nature. He goes from zero to ten in seconds, but has one of the biggest hearts.
This past weekend, we got to celebrate his birthday. He thinks he’s getting old, but I say, “35 looks good on you babe.” Cheers to the love of my life, the father of my children, and one of our community’s finest.